Dating a christian man
Satan, on the other hand, wants to mess you up with pride, sexual impurity and every other thing he can do to discredit your testimony for Christ and derail you from serving Him, and from one day having a godly marriage.
Plan ahead Gaps always get filled, often with temptations to sexual impurity.
Yet there is this odd rumor going around that the only important characteristic to look for in a future husband is that he’s a believer. If that’s your only requirement, you could just pick one Russian Roulette-style from the enormous pool of Christian men.
You don’t want to do that, because being a Christian isn’t all that matters. Marrying someone who doesn’t understand you, wants totally different things out of life than you, or doesn’t share any interests with you is a recipe for at best, a very discordant marriage and at worst, a divorce.
(On the other hand, don’t weird her out by talking about marriage on the first date.) I agree.
You can still have a private conversation even in a room full of people.
If there is always that possibility, then you must ask yourself whether this person has the qualities you will need in a husband. Ask yourself these questions: How strong is his relationship with Jesus Christ? How passionate is he about reading God’s Word, prayer, and fellowship with other believers in a biblically solid church? However, in Ephesians Paul compares a husband’s role toward his wife with that of Christ’s role toward His Bride, the Church, “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, the she might be holy and without blemish,” (Ephesians -27, emphasis mine).
Christ’s role and a husband’s role do differ because only Christ alone can truly cleanse us.
There are tons of Christian men out there that I would have been miserable marrying. At the same time, when you’re constantly trying to put every man you meet through your “husband filter,” it destroys your chances of figuring out if you actually like that person.
I dated a bunch of Christian men I was miserable dating. Here are some other factors to consider: Do you balance each other out? I had enough of a Christian-college filter (despite thinking I had escaped without one) that when my husband and I first started dating, I was initially concerned that he hadn’t brought up his commitment to Jesus or tried to lead us in prayer before we held hands.